What is a Primary Parent
Primary parents, or primary caregivers, are people who take care of or watch the child(ren) for at least 50% of the time. A primary parent can be adoptive parents, legal guardians, as well as both mothers and fathers. It’s important to note that even if there is a 50/50 custody arrangement, a primary parent must be named for legal purposes. Primary and alternate parent responsibilities do not differ much in type, but rather volume. Deciding who is the Primary parent and who is the Alternate parent is decided in court. Custody and child support cases are both heard in Juvenile, and custody battles happen with or without a previous marriage. Primary parents shoulder much of the weight of taking care of their child(ren), taking them to school, feeding and clothing the child, setting up medical and dental visits, etc. and they are almost always doing this with a full time job! Parents really are superheroes.
The Role of an Alternate Parent
The role of any parent is to support their child. The role of an Alternate parent should be to support the primary parent in providing care for the child(ren). Both the Alternate and the Primary parent should encourage the child(ren) to continue building a relationship with the other parent. There’s no real ‘role’ either parent to play, you just do what you think is best for your child and their future. Alternate parents should aim to be flexible, and try their best to continuously update the primary parent. Try to plan tasks and activities for you and your child(ren) to do together. Being there and doing your best is what is most essential, and your child will come to appreciate it and you. It’s also important to note that most alternate parents are the ones paying child support, where the primary parent is receiving it.
Types of Parenting Arrangements
Tennessee is a mother state, meaning when in court, the judge or ruling is almost always in the mother’s favor, which also means you fathers are gonna have to work extra hard to win over the court and swing the case in your favor. Tennessee most commonly has 80/20 splits, favoring the mother and giving her around 280 days, and the father 80. It is rare, but 50/50 custody splits happen, as well as 60/40 and 70/30. Again, in Tennessee these splits favor the mother, because Tennessee is a mother’s state, and actually ranks bottom on a list of states measuring the amount of time children spend with their father, check out that statistic here!
Working in Tandem
In 2001, the state of Tennessee officially started using legal language like “primary parent” and “parenting time,” rather than their previous counterparts, “sole custody” and “visitation”. The gentle language used denotes a significant change in the way Tennessee goes about their family legal procedures. The quality of care received by the child(ren) impacts their social and cognitive growth, so work with your co parent in accordance to your own parenting plan for the well-being of your child. If you ever disagree with a decision the co parent makes, always be sure to address it and communicate how you feel to the best of your ability. Pursuant to §36-6-402, in the state of Tennessee, an attempt at a resolution is required in civil disputes, so if attempting to speak to the co parent does not prove to be effective, the next step is mediation.
Conclusion
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